Rediscovering Your Worth: Healing Self-Esteem from the Inside Out

When That Inner Voice Won’t Let Up

Have you ever noticed how quick your mind can be to judge you?That inner voice that says:

• You should have done better.

• Why can’t you just get it right?

• You’re probably not good enough anyway…
  

I know that voice. I’ve lived with it, too.

For many years, even when everything looked “fine” on the outside, I still had that quiet, constant undercurrent of self-doubt. Whether it was work, relationships, friendships—there was always that feeling of not quite being enough. I could tick every box and still not feel satisfied. And no amount of praise or success really shifted it.

Sound familiar?

If so, you’re not alone. Low self-esteem is something so many of us silently carry. It shapes how we see ourselves, how we show up in the world, and how we let others treat us. And most of the time? We don’t even realise how much it’s running the show.

What is Self-Esteem, Really?

Self-esteem is essentially the way we feel about ourselves—our worth, our value, our sense of being good enough. And when it’s low, it affects everything.

You might notice things like:

• Constantly criticising yourself—even over the small stuff

• Struggling to accept compliments or feeling awkward when people say nice things

• Assuming the worst about yourself, even when there’s no evidence

• Comparing yourself to others and always coming up short

• Feeling like you have to prove your worth just to be accepted

These aren’t just “bad habits”—they’re usually rooted in deep, old beliefs that were formed a long time ago.

Where It All Begins

Low self-esteem doesn’t just appear out of nowhere. Often, it begins in childhood, in the subtle moments that make us question our value:

• A parent who was critical instead of encouraging

• A teacher who always noticed your mistakes, but never your effort

• Sibling dynamics that made you feel overlooked

• Growing up in an environment where love felt conditional

And we don’t need to be told directly, “You’re not good enough”. Sometimes, all it takes is a look, a silence, or a repeated pattern—and we begin to believe it ourselves.

Those beliefs settle deep inside, and as adults, we carry them into relationships, careers, parenting… everything. We start to measure our worth by what we do, not who we are.

My Journey with QCH Therapy

It wasn’t until I started my own journey with Cognitive Hypnotherapy that things began to shift. QCH helped me uncover where that low self-worth had come from—and more importantly, showed me that it didn’t have to stay that way.

We worked with the root beliefs—those quiet, powerful thoughts that had been running my inner world for years.

And by speaking to my unconscious mind in a way it could understand and trust, I began to rewrite the script. It didn’t happen overnight. But the difference is real. Now, when that inner critic tries to take over, I meet it with kindness—not obedience. I no longer need external validation in the way I once did.

And I feel more grounded in who I am, rather than who I think I should be.

You Can Change the Story

If you’ve been carrying this weight too, I want you to know this:

That belief—that you’re not good enough?

It’s not the truth. It’s a belief. And beliefs can be changed.

Cognitive Hypnotherapy isn’t about quick fixes or toxic positivity. It’s about gently, powerfully helping you see yourself differently.We go to the root.We shift the beliefs.We help your mind feel safe enough to let go of those old patterns.And from there, you get to build a relationship with yourself that feels true, solid, and kind.

Are You Ready to Feel Good About You?

If any of this resonated with you, I’d love to talk.

You don’t have to keep battling with yourself.There is another way—a way that’s kinder, quieter, more peaceful. Let’s begin with a free consultation, where we can explore what’s been holding you back and what healing could look like for you.

You deserve to feel worthy. Not because of what you do—but because of who you are. And I’d be honoured to walk that journey with you.