There’s a line between caring because we want to do a good job and caring so much that we’re constantly in fear. One is about integrity. The other is about survival. We’re trying to protect our identity.

You know that feeling when you have poured your heart, time and brainpower into something at work, and then when it finally gets to the big moment, it is like you were never really there?

Boundaries are not a punishment. They’re not a way to control or a weapon used to get people to do what we want. Healthy boundaries are about choosing what to let in.