A loud inner critic isn’t proof you’re failing; it’s a sign your system learned to stay safe by being hard on you.
Self‑esteem work in my Weybridge practice blends somatic regulation with EMDR so kinder beliefs can land in the body, not just the mind. We start by widening attention, softening the jaw and letting the exhale be longer than the inhale—small cues that lower the heat of self‑judgement.
We grow awareness of the earliest signs that criticism is rising—tightness around the eyes, shoulders creeping up, a sting in the chest. You’ll learn to meet those signs quickly with steadying gestures and words that are firm but kind.
EMDR’s bilateral rhythm helps us process moments that planted harsh beliefs: the comment that stuck, the grade that defined you, the silence that felt like rejection. We work in short rounds with frequent pauses so your system can absorb new learning safely.
Between sessions we add brief routines—morning settles, post‑meeting resets, sentences that protect boundaries—so respect for yourself is practised, not just discussed. Over time people notice a quieter critic, clearer posture and decisions that fit their values.
This is not about becoming loud; it’s about becoming steady. Worth grows when your body can feel that you are safe enough to be on your own side.
FAQ
Q1. How does EMDR help with low self‑esteem?
We process the moments that seeded harsh beliefs and practise somatic skills that make kinder ones believable.
Q2. Will I learn daily ways to protect progress?
Yes—brief routines and boundary sentences that keep new self‑regard alive.
Q3. Are sessions collaborative and paced to me?
Always. Consent, pauses and clear choice guide the work in Weybridge or online.